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Michelle Spencer (she/her)'s avatar

A beautiful reminder. And also your Dad is feeling his time and energy running out, while he steeps in physical pain, where the woman at the shop can hope or expect to live around and beyond her pain, maybe? My Dad tended to hug the darkness to him in his latter years, it was hard to witness. I suspected it is one kind of Celtic heritage. A therapist once told me that anger is easier for some people to feel than grief and fear. His pain and suffering encouraged me to turn to the good (and get therapy when needed). Here’s to seeking the good and in good company.

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Bernadette Jiwa's avatar

Thank you for reflecting back to me, Michelle. I have no doubt that the therapist was right. I am in awe of how you walk through the world.

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Katy Dalgleish's avatar

We have so many choices. It is good to remember that choosing a positive path has an impact on other people. Thanks for the reminder.

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Anil M Valecha's avatar

Give your dad a hug every time you can. And cheer him up with the foods he likes to indulge in. It’s just like filling the half empty glass of water with lots of love. That’ll make a difference.

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Collis Harris's avatar

Bernadette,

How do you raise the emotional tone of those around you? Your story shows us: with affinity, reality, and communication. Brief but effective, yes?

Another true story, well told.

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Bernadette Jiwa's avatar

I like how you've framed the choice we have in every moment, Collis. Thank you.

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Virginia Heslinga's avatar

A timely reminder for all of us who can see how much we take for granted or focus on the negative when positives are all around us, and people with needs we cannot see interact with us. Thank you.

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Bernadette Jiwa's avatar

Thanks for being here and for taking the time to comment, Virginia.

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Virginia Heslinga's avatar

Glad to, and I just bought two more of your books, Story Driven and The Making of Her! I am looking forward to reading both of them, though my days do not always have 'free reading' time.

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Bernadette Jiwa's avatar

Oh, I hope you enjoy them, Virginia. Thanks again!

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Michael Averill's avatar

Thanks for the reminder there is always a choice Bernadette ❤️.

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Bernadette Jiwa's avatar

I've learned so much about choosing to see the good from you, Michael.

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